Susy Derkins: An interesting property of the power to being in several places at once granted by cell phones is that it allows for new venues of personal interaction. During a phone call, the caller and the called are *there* but not _really *there*_: which one is true? Usually the parts tacitly agree on the _being there_ perception. But cell phones can grant you the ability to apply the _being there/not really being there_ **in an asymmetric fashion**. I´d like to illustrate an instance of asymmetric _being there/not really being there_, within the dynamics of a marriage in which one of the partners work outside the home and the other stays at home with the kids. It works at two levels. First, this wav is the voicemail announcements.