These next wavs are second, the actual poison-filled messages: In this case, the cell phone allows the stay-at-home spouse _to be there_, anywhere the working-outside-the-home spouse is. To be there, inside his/her cell phone. And this same cell phone is particularly useful to remind the selfish-working-outside-the-home-spouse that he/she _is not there_ presently, and, by the way, that he/she **never is**. The cell phone makes distance apply to only one of the directions of the call. And in that sense, if the stay-at-home spouse is so inclined, cell phones are excellent means to enhance emotional blackmail: ubiquitous torture. Cell phone-associated technologies allow for wonderfully exquisite refinements to this type of torture. Discharged batteries, signal loss, lack of prepaid credit are all useful ways in which the called becomes not only *physically absent* but _*unreachable*_. So, he/she is *not there **twice**, while the caller *is right there* even if the phone doesn't ring. Cell phone voicemail: the perfect tool for instilling terror in the working-outside-the-home spouse....